高中英語課外閲讀之哪裏才是給你幸福的地方
Once, when a relationship I loved but struggled with was ending, I felt convinced that if only he and I went to the spot of one of our first dates (a place we had returned to throughout our relationship and where we always felt calm and connected), we would somehow figure everything out. Of course, I didn't suggest we go there, and so we didn't, and the relationship came to its natural end. Looking back I don't think the place could have breathed new life into anything at the time, anyway, but what's striking to me is that, for a moment, I was certain that a place had the power to do so. Such is the power of a couple's secret, private space.
When we're growing up, forts made of blankets and secret clubhouses provide space for friendships and crushes to develop. And if you've seen the movie Up!, you perhaps have some thoughts on how one's childhood clubhouse(俱樂部) can - with a little care, fresh paint, and the right partner-in-crime - create space for adult love to bloom.
As women and men grow up and form loving adult relationships, it becomes increasingly important for couples to create a space in which they can relax, be themselves, and grow closer. For many couples, the bed they share may be the place to which they retreat for feelings of safety, comfort and love - not to mention sex. A couple's bed is where they may let down their emotional and physical guards during sleep as well as during sex. In fact, it may be one of the few places where they can make themselves feel entirely vulnerable to another human being.
For some people, trust and security come easy. For others, learning to be vulnerable to another person is a struggle that they may or may not win with time, practice and what feels like great risk taking. Consequently, as damaging as affairs in any shape or form may be, they can feel particularly threatening when a person allows their affair into the bed they share with their partner. Betraying trust by letting someone else into a couple's bed can feel not just hurtful, but devastating.
The bed is such a special place for many women and men that it's not unusual for some couples to say that they have their best conversations with each other when they are in bed. Maybe they wake up on weekends feeling rested and enjoy lying together, just talking. Perhaps before sleep, the ritual of getting undressed, settling into bed and holding one another close allows the conversation to flow more naturally than during the day. For some couples, it's sex that brings them closer - kissing, hugging, touching, and naked passion may be followed by cuddling, closeness and sharing secrets one might never think to share over breakfast, let's say, or watching television.
As relationship-enhancing as a bed or bedroom may be, others places can allow love or sex to bloom, too. A bath tub can serve as a private sanctuary in which some couples dissect their day, share their dreams, or seduce one another. The shower can be not only a place to become clean but a place to start kissing or to have passionate, lustful sex. Some couples find their special place outside the home: a fire tower nestled in the woods in which they can take in an entire forest of autumn leaves, a park in which they can lie down and look at clouds, or a neighborhood hotel that they can retreat to for a night away from the kids and a chance to feel young again. Even a living room sofa can provide comfort and closeness for a couple or family as they huddle together(擠在一起) to eat popcorn and watch a movie.
Wherever you find your special place, know that it is important to have one and to visit it with some regularity to keep it alive as asanctuary(避難所) and a place that matters. Spaces become alive in the ways that they bring us closer to a partner, a family or a group of friends. As life gets hectic and relationships become stressed, special places can help to center a relationship. Going to bed together can feel calming, sneaking away to your favorite hotel can ignite passion, and drawing a fragranced bath for your significant other may just inspire romance or re-connection. Where's your secret spot?
-
職高一年級語文教學總結(通用9篇)
在我們無暇顧及時間時,時間早已匆匆流逝,在這段時間中有什麼值得分享的經驗嗎?讓教學總結為這一年劃上一個圓滿的句號吧。到底應如何做自我評價和自我總結呢?以下是小編為大家整理的職高一年級語文教學總結,僅供參考,歡迎大家閲讀。職高一年級語文教學總結1時光飛逝,...
-
八年級的英語月考反思(精選5篇)
在現實社會中,課堂教學是我們的任務之一,反思過去,是為了以後。怎樣寫反思才更能起到其作用呢?下面是小編收集整理的八年級的英語月考反思,僅供參考,希望能夠幫助到大家。八年級的英語月考反思1這次月考結束了,成績很不理想。面對成績,談幾點自己的反思。1.學生的基礎...
-
《孩子你慢慢來》的讀後感範文(通用28篇)
當仔細品讀一部作品後,相信大家都有很多值得分享的東西,現在就讓我們寫一篇走心的讀後感吧。到底應如何寫讀後感呢?下面是小編為大家收集的《孩子你慢慢來》的讀後感範文(通用28篇),僅供參考,大家一起來看看吧。《孩子你慢慢來》的讀後感篇1《孩子你慢慢來》向我們展...
-
幼兒園園垃圾分類活動方案(精選5篇)
為了確保活動取得實效,常常需要預先準備活動方案,活動方案是為某一活動所制定的具體行動實施辦法細則、步驟和安排等。活動方案要怎麼制定呢?下面是小編為大家收集的幼兒園園垃圾分類活動方案(精選5篇),僅供參考,大家一起來看看吧。幼兒園園垃圾分類活動方案1一、活動...